Torn Ausnder: Recovering From An Extrmarital Affair

Torn Asunder offers couples hope, healing, and encouragement in ^the face of adultery. It helps readers understand extramarital affairs and then ^offers healing for marriages dealing with this betrayal. This refreshed and updated ^edition is an excellent resource for pastors, leaders, and lay people. The workbook ^allows couples to work through and apply the material presented in Torn Asunder.

Foreword
Acknowledgements
Prologue: A Letter from "The Other Woman"

Section ^1: Understanding Extramarital Affairs

1. "What God Hath Joined Together": ^In Pursuit of Healing for Shattered Marriages

2. Sorting Out the Chaos: The ^One-Night Stand and Sexual Addiction

3. Sorting Out the Chaos: The Entangled ^Affair and the Add-on Affair

4. Causes: Environments That Allow Affairs to ^Flourish

5. Other Factors Contributing to Infidelity


Section ^2: Healing from Affairs

6. Understanding the Recovery: The Infidel's Process

7. ^Understanding the Recovery: The Spouse's Process

8. Why? Deciphering the ^Message of the Affair

9. Anger in Affairs: Getting Good Out of Getting Mad
10. ^Can I Trust You Again? Rebuilding Trust

11. "And They Shall Be As One": Restructuring ^Intimacy


Section 3: Special Circumstances

12. To Tell or Not ^to Tell? The Secret Affair

13. Emotional Affairs: Hooked, Played-out, and ^Desperate for Release

14. When Your Spouse Doesn't Want You Back: The 90-Day ^Experiment

DAVE CARDER currently serves as Pastor responsible for Counseling ^and Marriage Ministries at the First Evangelical Free Church of Fullerton. He holds ^graduate degrees in Biblical Literature and in Marital and Family Therapy as well ^as the Michigan Limited License in Psychology and the Marriage and Family Therapy ^license in California. Dave has published five books, one of which won The Gold ^Medallion Award in Personal Evangelism in 1993. Dave and his wife, Ronnie, have ^four adult children and five grandchildren. In their spare time they enjoy jogging.

R. ^DUNCAN JAENICKE (B.A., University of Illinois) has done postgraduate work in ^psychology and counseling and frequently writes on related subjects. He is co-author ^of Connections and a collaborator for Torn Asunder.


Written by respected pastor and marriage counselor Dave Carder, this ^revised and expanded version of Torn Asunder sorts through the factors that ^contribute to infidelity and then maps out a recovery process for both partners. ^With compassion and wisdom rooted in the Bible, Carder offers insight for the victims ^of adultery, the perpetrators, and those who seek to help hurting couples.


Along ^the way Carder also answers questions like:

Why did this happen? We ^didn't actually sleep together. Is it still an affair? Can I trust my spouse ^again? Should I reveal a secret affair? What if my spouse doesn't want me ^back? What do we tell the kids?

It is biblical. It is well researched. It is hopeful. It is practical. ^Dave Carder not only knows the subject, he lives in integrity as a man who walks ^his talk. His life, his teaching, his character, and his competency assure the reader ^that this book will change lives.
-Dr. John Townsend, Author

A resource on marital infedlity for all involved, even onlookers


Written by respected pastor and marriage counselor Dave Carder, this revised and expanded version of Torn Asunder sorts through the factors that contribute to infidelity and then maps out a recovery process for both partners. With compassion and wisdom rooted in the Bible, Carder offers insight for the victims of adultery, the perpetrators, and those who seek to help hurting couples.


Along the way Carder also answers questions like:

Why did this happen' We didn't actually sleep together, so is it still an affair' Can I trust my spouse again' Should I reveal a secret affair' What if my spouse doesn't want me back' What do we tell the kids'
This refreshed and updated edition is an excellent resource for pastors, leaders, and lay people.


Pair this with the Torn Asunder Workbook to for extra guidance in applying the book's advice to your marriage.



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