When You've Been Wronged: Moving From Bitterness to Forgiveness
Imagine walking through a maximum security prison and seeing the cell keys hanging inside the cells. By choosing not to forgive, we voluntarily sentence ourselves to diminished, pain-filled lives. Why would anyone do such a thing? Because forgiveness seems...
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Imagine walking through a maximum security prison and seeing the cell keys hanging inside the cells. By choosing not to forgive, we voluntarily sentence ourselves to diminished, pain-filled lives. Why would anyone do such a thing? Because forgiveness seems an inappropriate response to offense. To experience a broken promise, betrayed confidence, personal rejection, false accusation, injury, or abuse, is to be wounded. Such wounds cry out for justice. But what if justice is not possible? Or if it doesn't undo the damage done? What then? In this concise, quickly-read volume, noted pastor and author Erwin Lutzer carefully illustrates how it is possible to right the wrongs of your life. Whether you've been wronged--or have wronged others--he makes it possible to experience the freedom of forgiveness, and the restoration of a clear conscience.
^often is not. Time and again after we've tried every
option and failed, all we ^are left with is a load of guilt and pain. Best-selling author Erwin Lutzer shows ^how the blessing the Lord gives to those who suffer unjustly is worth the pain involved. ^He also illustrates the need to leave our broken relationships in the hands of God, ^and move forward in our lives toward freedom. It is only through His healing power ^that we can overcome the bitterness and resentment that has overtaken our world.
Imagine walking through a maximum security prison and seeing the cell ^keys hanging inside the cells. By choosing not to forgive, we voluntarily ^sentence ourselves to diminished, pain-filled lives. Why would anyone do such ^a thing? Because forgiveness seems an inappropriate response to offense. ^To experience a broken promise, betrayed confidence, personal rejection, false accusation, ^injury, or abuse, is to be wounded. Such wounds cry out for justice. But what ^if justice is not possible? Or if it doesn't undo the damage done? What ^then? In this concise, quickly-read volume, noted pastor and author Erwin ^Lutzer carefully illustrates how it is possible to right the wrongs of your life. ^Whether you've been wronged--or have wronged others--he makes it possible to experience ^the freedom of forgiveness, and the restoration of a clear conscience.
You've been wronged.
Have lies have been told ^about you? Have you been rejected? Maybe you've been the victim of abuse. Perhaps ^it's a broken promise. Or someone betrayed a confidence.
It's only natural ^that you would be angry. These wounds cry out for justice! But what if justice isn't ^possible this side of heaven? What if the damage can't be undone? What then?
You ^have a decision to make.
You can hold on to your anger until your ^anguish builds a prison of bitterness. In this cage you will live a diminished and ^pain-filled life. Or you can choose to forgive.
Erwin Lutzer discusses dealing ^with difficult people such as "spear throwers" and "destroyers," as well as handling ^conflict among family members and Christians in the courtroom. In this concise, ^quickly read volume, you'll learn how to move from bitterness to blessing.
By ^choosing forgiveness you are choosing abundant life. It's a decision you can make ^today!
DR. ERWIN LUTZER Since 1980, Dr. Erwin W. Lutzer has served as Senior ^Pastor of The Moody Church in Chicago, where he provides leadership to Chicago pastors. ^A renowned theologian, Dr. Lutzer earned his B.Th. from Winnipeg Bible College, ^a Th.M. from Dallas Theological Seminary, an M.A. in Philosophy from Loyola University, ^and an honorary LL.D. from Simon Greenleaf School of Law.He is the featured speaker ^on three radio programs including the Sunday morning worship service, "Moody Church ^Hour"; the popular evening program "Songs in the Night"; as well as the daily broadcast ^"Running to Win." These programs are heard on more than 700 radio stations in the ^United States and around the world. Dr. Lutzer is also an award-winning author of ^numerous books including: The King Is Coming, One Minute After You Die, When ^a Nation Forgets God, When You've Been Wronged, Christ Among Other gods, Life-Changing ^Bible Verses You Should Know, and Hitler's Cross, which received the ^Christian Bookseller's Gold Medallion Award. His speaking engagements outside the ^pulpit of The Moody Church include Bible conferences and seminars, both domestically ^and internationally. He has led tours to Israel and to the cities of the Protestant ^Reformation in Europe. Dr. Lutzer and his wife, Rebecca, live in the Chicago area ^and have three grown children and eight grandchildren.
TABLE OF CONTENTS
Introduction: Those ^Impossible People / 7
1. Satan's Mixed Bag of Offenses / 15
2. ^The Blinding Power of an Offense / 25
3. Meet Cain the Destroyer / ^41
4. Families at War: When Trust Fails / 57
5. Dodging ^Spears / 75
6. Christians in the Courtroom / 97
7. From ^Bitterness to Blessing / 113
8. The High Cost of Reconciliation / 133
9. ^When Reconciliation Fails / 151
Notes / 171
The Christian life is full of platitudes. One of these is ^that we "forgive one another." Unfortunately, too many of us live under heavy ^consequences of difficult and broken relationships. Can anything be done about ^it? Is it just "the way it is"? My good friend Erwin Lutzer provides ^specific help that we all need when dealing with difficult people in our lives. ^These pages will help you press on to find freedom in what might seem an impossible ^situation. Run the risk and read this book. You may never be the same.
-Michael ^J. Easley, President Emeritus, Moody Bible Institute
"The blood of Jesus ^offers words of forgiveness and reconciliation to all who embrace the cross. ^At the foot of the cross both destroyer and victim can come together and find healing." ^This tremendous truth is shared in the book When You've Been Wronged by ^my longtime friend Erwin Lutzer. Dr. Lutzer skillfully teaches godly principles ^of forgiveness and how Christians can have the mind of Christ when they find themselves ^in conflict.
-Franklin ^Graham, President and CEO, Billy Graham Evangelistic Association, Samaritan's Purse
Hardly ^a day passes that I don't hear another story of betrayal, broken promises, and damaged ^relationships. Even our churches and Christian homes are strewn with the wreckage ^of estranged relationships. Dr. Lutzer urges us to make Christianity believable ^by pursuing reconciliation and moving from bitterness to blessing. This book is ^full of rich, biblical insight and practical instruction which, if heeded, will ^prove to be the pathway to freedom and perhaps the revival we so desperately need.
-Nancy ^Leigh DeMoss, Author, Revive Our Hearts radio host
Erin W. Lutzer has served as senior pastor of the Moody Church in Chicago since 1980. Dr. Lutzer is a renowned theologian and an award-winning author of more than twenty books, including the bestselling The Da Vinci Deception and The Truth About Same-Sex Marriage. The featured speaker on three national radio programs, The Moody Church Hour, Songs in the Night, and Running to Win, Dr. Lutzer speaks both nationally and internationally at Bible conferences and seminars helping to further God's kingdom.