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51 Creative Ideas For Marriage Mentors

Les ParrottLeslie Parrott
51 Creative Ideas For Marriage Mentors
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51 Creative Ideas For Marriage Mentors

Les ParrottLeslie Parrott

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51 Creative Ideas for Marriage Mentorsoffers an "idea box" of activities and innovative ways to deepen relationships between mentoring couples. It can beused in any of the three areas of the marriage mentoring triad: - Preparing--mentoring engaged and newlywed couples- Maximizing--mentoring couples from good to great- Restoring--mentoring couples in distressCreative ideas for marriage mentors are grouped into these three areas. There is also an entire section of ideas appropriate for mentoring any couple. With activities that vary from quickly implemented suggestions to more involved interactions, this easy-to-use reference will help alleviate the stress of couples overwhelmed by mentoring ... and take experienced mentors to a whole new level.Designed to work on its own or in tandem with the Parrotts' other marriage mentoring resources, 51Creative Ideas for Marriage Mentors will inspire freshideas, increase a sense of vision for the marriage mentoring process, and build the confidence

- Publisher 51 Creative Ideas for Marriage Mentors Copyright 2006 by The Foundation for Healthy Relationships Requests for information should be addressed to: Zondervan, Grand Rapids, Michigan 49530 Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data Parrott, Les. 51 creative ideas for marriage mentors : connecting couples to build better marriages / Les and Leslie Parrott. p. cm. ISBN-13: 978-0-310-27047-8 ISBN-10: 0-310-27047-2 1. Church work with married people. 2. Mentoring in church work. 3. Marriage - Religious aspects - Christianity. I. Parrott, Leslie L., 1964- II. Title. BV4012.27.P35 2006 259'.14 - dc22 2005031946 All Scripture quotations, unless otherwise indicated, are taken from the Holy Bible: Today's New International Version. TNIV. Copyright 2001, 2005 by International Bible Society. Used by permission of Zondervan. All rights reserved. The website addresses recommended throughout this book are offered as a resource to you. These websites are not intended in any way to be or imply an endorsement on the part of Zondervan, nor do we vouch for their content for the life of this book. All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means - electronic, mechanical, photocopy, recording, or any other - except for brief quotations in printed reviews, without the prior permission of the publisher. Published in association with Yates & Yates, LLP, Attorneys and Counselors, Suite 1000, Literary Agent, Orange, CA. Interior design by Beth Shagene Printed in the United States of America 06 07 08 09 10 11 12 - 18 17 16 15 14 13 12 11 10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1 Part One Ideas for Mentoring Any Couple In this section you'll find several practical suggestions for mentoring any couple, no matter their age or stage. Feel free to make these ideas your own by changing them in ways that may work best with your mentorees. Chapter 1 Practice the Thirty-Second Rule This little idea is a winner that works for every marriage mentoring relationship. And it's simple. Within the first thirty seconds of a meeting with your mentorees, say something encouraging to them. Give them an uplifting compliment. This can be more challenging than you might think. Most of the time, upon meeting someone, we human beings focus on ourselves, searching for ways to make ourselves look good. Out of habit, we ask the generic "How are you doing?" Or, "Tell me about your day." That's fine, especially when it is genuinely focused on the mentoree couple, but if you truly want to see the spirits of your mentoree couple soar, try this thirty-second rule. Deposit good words in them before you even get started. Once you begin to practice this regularly, you'll see it really doesn't take all that much effort. Everyone feels better when you give them attention and affirmation. So be sure to focus your attention, genuinely, on your mentorees right upfront. If you're distracted by something else at the beginning, that sets the tone for your time together. Next, go out of your way to affirm them. Say something like, "You two always look so sharp," "I love the enthusiasm that exudes from you two," or "You guys have really been working hard, haven't you?" If nothing else, you can always affirm your mentorees for being mentored: "I'm so proud to be mentoring you two." In thirty seconds' time, you just might say some of the most uplifting words they've heard all day. Chapter 2 Curb Marriage Gossip Early on in any marriage mentoring relationship it is imperative to discuss confidentiality. Your mentorees will be put at ease if you assure them of your confidence. After all, they will only share information to the le

- Publisher Designed to work on its own or in tandem with the Parrotts' other marriage mentoring resources, 51 Creative Ideas for Marriage Mentors will inspire fresh ideas, increase a sense of vision for the marriage mentoring process, and build the confidence of all marriage mentors, regardless of age or stage.

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51 Creative Ideas for Marriage Mentorsoffers an "idea box" of activities and innovative ways to deepen relationships between mentoring couples. It can beused in any of the three areas of the marriage mentoring triad: - Preparing--mentoring engaged and newlywed couples- Maximizing--mentoring couples from good to great- Restoring--mentoring couples in distressCreative ideas for marriage mentors are grouped into these three areas. There is also an entire section of ideas appropriate for mentoring any couple. With activities that vary from quickly implemented suggestions to more involved interactions, this easy-to-use reference will help alleviate the stress of couples overwhelmed by mentoring ... and take experienced mentors to a whole new level.Designed to work on its own or in tandem with the Parrotts' other marriage mentoring resources, 51Creative Ideas for Marriage Mentors will inspire freshideas, increase a sense of vision for the marriage mentoring process, and build the confidence
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51 Creative Ideas for Marriage Mentors Copyright 2006 by The Foundation for Healthy Relationships Requests for information should be addressed to: Zondervan, Grand Rapids, Michigan 49530 Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data Parrott, Les. 51 creative ideas for marriage mentors : connecting couples to build better marriages / Les and Leslie Parrott. p. cm. ISBN-13: 978-0-310-27047-8 ISBN-10: 0-310-27047-2 1. Church work with married people. 2. Mentoring in church work. 3. Marriage - Religious aspects - Christianity. I. Parrott, Leslie L., 1964- II. Title. BV4012.27.P35 2006 259'.14 - dc22 2005031946 All Scripture quotations, unless otherwise indicated, are taken from the Holy Bible: Today's New International Version. TNIV. Copyright 2001, 2005 by International Bible Society. Used by permission of Zondervan. All rights reserved. The website addresses recommended throughout this book are offered as a resource to you. These websites are not intended in any way to be or imply an endorsement on the part of Zondervan, nor do we vouch for their content for the life of this book. All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means - electronic, mechanical, photocopy, recording, or any other - except for brief quotations in printed reviews, without the prior permission of the publisher. Published in association with Yates & Yates, LLP, Attorneys and Counselors, Suite 1000, Literary Agent, Orange, CA. Interior design by Beth Shagene Printed in the United States of America 06 07 08 09 10 11 12 - 18 17 16 15 14 13 12 11 10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1 Part One Ideas for Mentoring Any Couple In this section you'll find several practical suggestions for mentoring any couple, no matter their age or stage. Feel free to make these ideas your own by changing them in ways that may work best with your mentorees. Chapter 1 Practice the Thirty-Second Rule This little idea is a winner that works for every marriage mentoring relationship. And it's simple. Within the first thirty seconds of a meeting with your mentorees, say something encouraging to them. Give them an uplifting compliment. This can be more challenging than you might think. Most of the time, upon meeting someone, we human beings focus on ourselves, searching for ways to make ourselves look good. Out of habit, we ask the generic "How are you doing?" Or, "Tell me about your day." That's fine, especially when it is genuinely focused on the mentoree couple, but if you truly want to see the spirits of your mentoree couple soar, try this thirty-second rule. Deposit good words in them before you even get started. Once you begin to practice this regularly, you'll see it really doesn't take all that much effort. Everyone feels better when you give them attention and affirmation. So be sure to focus your attention, genuinely, on your mentorees right upfront. If you're distracted by something else at the beginning, that sets the tone for your time together. Next, go out of your way to affirm them. Say something like, "You two always look so sharp," "I love the enthusiasm that exudes from you two," or "You guys have really been working hard, haven't you?" If nothing else, you can always affirm your mentorees for being mentored: "I'm so proud to be mentoring you two." In thirty seconds' time, you just might say some of the most uplifting words they've heard all day. Chapter 2 Curb Marriage Gossip Early on in any marriage mentoring relationship it is imperative to discuss confidentiality. Your mentorees will be put at ease if you assure them of your confidence. After all, they will only share information to the le
- Publisher

Designed to work on its own or in tandem with the Parrotts' other marriage mentoring resources, 51 Creative Ideas for Marriage Mentors will inspire fresh ideas, increase a sense of vision for the marriage mentoring process, and build the confidence of all marriage mentors, regardless of age or stage.
- Publisher

Meet the Authors

Les Parrott

Les Parrott is founder of the Centre for Relationship Development on the campus of Seattle Pacific University and the best-selling author of HIGH-MAINTENANCE RELATIONSHIPS, THE CONTROL FREAK, and LOVE TALK. Dr. Parrott is a sought after speaker to Fortune 500 companies and holds relationship seminars across North America. He also hosts the US national radio broadcast 'Love Talk.' Dr Parrott has been featured in 'USA Today', 'the Wall Street Journal', and 'the New York Times'. His television appearances include CNN, Good Morning America, and Oprah.- Publisher.

Leslie Parrott

Dr. Leslie Parrott is a marriage and family therapist and codirector with her husband, Dr. Les Parrott, of the Center for Relationship Development at Seattle Pacific University. She is the author of God Made You Nose to Toes and The First Drop of Rain, and co-author with her husband of several bestselling books, including The Complete Guide to Marriage Mentoring, Relationships, Love Talk, and the Gold Medallion Award-winner, Saving Your Marriage before It Starts. Leslie is a columnist for Today's Christian Woman and has been featured on Oprah, CBS Morning, CNN, and The View, and in USA Today and the New York Times. www.RealRelationships.com
Koorong -Editorial Review.

Table Of Contents

  • Contents
  • Acknowledgments 11
  • Introduction: Getting Big Results From This Little Book 13
  • Part One
  • Ideas For Mentoring Any Couple
  • 1. Practice The Thirty-second Rule..... 21
  • 2. Curb Marriage Gossip..... 22
  • 3. Place A Photo Of Your Mentoree Couple
  • In Your Home..... 24
  • 4. Keep Contact Information Handy..... 25
  • 5. Send A Word Of Encouragement..... 26
  • 6. Ask The One Question That Could Change
  • Their Marriage..... 27
  • 7. Pass Along A Helpful Article Or Email..... 29
  • 8. Teach The Single Most Powerful Marriage Principle..... 30
  • 9. Let Them Know About A Local Marriage Seminar..... 32
  • 10. Be Aware Of 'what's On'..... 34
  • 11. Open The Church Doors..... 35
  • 12. Practice Old-fashioned Hospitality..... 36
  • 13. Be One Of The First To Send A Christmas Greeting..... 37
  • 14. Double Your Serve..... 38
  • 15. Remember Their Anniversary..... 40
  • Your Additional Ideas For Mentoring Any Couple
  • . 41
  • Part Two
  • Ideas For Mentoring Engaged
  • And Newlywed Couples
  • 16. Identify Their Top Ten Needs..... 45
  • 17. Help Them Sink Their Roots Down Deep..... 47
  • 18. Cautiously Connect With Your Mentorees' Parents..... 49
  • 19. Do Some Coupon Cutting..... 51
  • 20. Consider A Babysitting Opportunity..... 52
  • 21. Give The In-law Inventory..... 53
  • 22. Make A Splash With A Low-cost Gift..... 55
  • 23. Chart Their Spiritual Journey..... 56
  • 24. Make Their First Noel One To Remember..... 58
  • 25. Explore Their Roles..... 59
  • 26. Note The Little Things..... 60
  • 27. Envision Their Golden Anniversary..... 62
  • Your Additional Ideas For Mentoring Engaged
  • And Newlywed Couples..... 63
  • Part Three
  • Ideas For Mentoring Couples
  • Moving
  • From Good To Great
  • 28. Dream Big..... 67
  • 29. Find Inspiration Around You..... 69
  • 30. Turn The Tables..... 71
  • 31. More Time Or More Money?..... 73
  • 32. The Most Influential Person..... 75
  • 33. Homeward Bound..... 76
  • 34. 'i Love You More Than.....'..... 77
  • 35. Decisions, Decisions!..... 78
  • 36. Monkey See, Monkey Do..... 79
  • 37. Start A Date Club..... 80
  • 38. Pay Now, Play Later..... 82
  • 39. The Big Question..... 84
  • Your Additional Ideas For Mentoring Couples
  • Moving From Good To Great..... 85
  • Part Four
  • Ideas For Mentoring Couples
  • In Distress
  • 40. Take Inventory..... 89
  • 41. Steer Clear Of The Number-one Marriage Problem..... 91
  • 42. Turn Murphy's Law On Its Ear..... 93
  • 43. What Would You Miss?..... 95
  • 44. Reveal The Two Most Overlooked 'romantic' Phrases..... 97
  • 45. Give Them A Reputation To Uphold..... 98
  • 46. The Couples-
  • Communication Strengths Finder..... 99
  • 47. Explore The Lesson Of An Old Farm Couple
  • ...... 101
  • 48. Avoid The Blame Game..... 103
  • 49. Shoulda, Coulda, Woulda..... 105
  • 50. What's Your Favorite?..... 107
  • 51. What Have You Been Looking For?..... 109
  • Your Additional Ideas For Mentoring Couples
  • In Distress..... 112
  • Conclusion: Where Do We Go From Here?..... 115
  • Notes..... 117

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Part One Ideas for Mentoring Any Couple In this section you'll find several practical suggestions for mentoring any couple, no matter their age or stage. Feel free to make these ideas your own by changing them in ways that may work best with your mentorees. Chapter 1 Practice the Thirty-Second Rule This little idea is a winner that works for every marriage mentoring relationship. And it's simple. Within the first thirty seconds of a meeting with your mentorees, say something encouraging to them. Give them an uplifting compliment. This can be more challenging than you might think. Most of the time, upon meeting someone, we human beings focus on ourselves, searching for ways to make ourselves look good. Out of habit, we ask the generic 'How are you doing?' Or, 'Tell me about your day.' That's fine, especially when it is genuinely focused on the mentoree couple, but if you truly want to see the spirits of your mentoree couple soar, try this thirty-second rule. Deposit good words in them before you even get started. Once you begin to practice this regularly, you'll see it really doesn't take all that much effort. Everyone feels better when you give them attention and affirmation. So be sure to focus your attention, genuinely, on your mentorees right upfront. If you're distracted by something else at the beginning, that sets the tone for your time together. Next, go out of your way to affirm them. Say something like, 'You two always look so sharp,' 'I love the enthusiasm that exudes from you two,' or 'You guys have really been working hard, haven't you?' If nothing else, you can always affirm your mentorees for being mentored: 'I'm so proud to be mentoring you two.' In thirty seconds' time, you just might say some of the most uplifting words they've heard all day. Chapter 2 Curb Marriage Gossip Early on in any marriage mentoring relationship it is imperative to discuss confidentiality. Your mentorees will be put at ease if you assure them of your confidence. After all, they will only share information to the level that they know you are not going to be blabbing it to others --- even strangers. So take some time to explore this matter with them. Tell them flat out that the information that they share with you stays with you. Assure them that you would never betray their trust and that you will protect the information they share. And while you're on the subject, you also might talk about 'marital gossip.' This is the all-too-common scenario that evolves when one spouse begins to talk to a friend or relative about their marital issues. Is this always inappropriate? Of course not. But it can soon become harmful if it makes the other spouse feel uncomfortable or embarrassed. For example, if he doesn't want others to know he locked himself out of the car which in turn became the source of a marital spat, she should keep that information to herself. If she doesn't want others to know that she regularly loses her temper with the kids, he should keep that information to himself. But by expressing general frustration to a trusted, supportive friend in order to gain objectivity about a situation, they are not unduly embarrassing their partner nor are they complaining about specific behavior. You get the idea. It basically comes down to helping them see the difference between seeking support from somebody outside the relationship versus venting feelings by complaining. And venting is almost always unhealthy for a marriage and damaging to a couple's sense of loyalty to each other. In fact, you can let mentorees know that if either of them wants to vent, you --- as their marriage mentors --- are a safe place for doing just that, as long as both spouses are present. (If you do this one-on-one, it creates an unhealthy triangle in your relationship with your mentoree couple.) Here's a final thought that may help curb marital gossip. Have your mentorees consider the remarkable energy that would be restored to their marriage if they 'gossiped' about good things instead of bad. If, for example, a wife confided in a friend how sweet her husband was to clean up the kitchen. Or if a husband told his friend how generous his wife was in giving to the needy. This is another way of saying that if you want to curb marital gossip, you can't go wrong by becoming your partner's publicist. In short, urge them to gab about the good with other people and never betray one another's confidence.

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  • Pages 128
  • Department General Books
  • Category Relationships
  • Sub-Category Love, Sex & Marriage
  • Publisher Zondervan
  • Publication Date May 2006
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  • Dimensions 203 x 135 x 9 mm
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