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Boundaries (Workbook)

Henry CloudJohn Townsend

Boundaries (Workbook)

Henry CloudJohn Townsend



MAR96 - LLNOV95 - LL

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About "Boundaries (Workbook)"

MAR96 - LLNOV95 - LL
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Draw the line . . . Used with its companion book, Boundaries, this workbook will provide practical, non-theoretical exercises that will help you set healthy boundaries with parents, spouses, children, friends, co-workers, and even yourself . . . by drawing on God's wisdom. Being a loving and unselfish Christian does not mean never telling anyone no. This workbook helps you discover what boundaries you need and how to avoid feeling guilty about setting them. It will give you biblically based answers to questions you have about boundaries.
- Publisher

Meet the Authors

Henry Cloud

Dr. Cloud is a clinical psychologist with a unique ability to connect with his audiences. Drawing upon his broad range of experiences in private practice, leadership consulting, and media, he simplifies life's issues and gives easy-to-understand, practical advice. It is Dr. Cloud's humour, compassion, and 'in the moment' confrontation that make his approach to psychology and spirituality such a success.

He has written or co-written 19 books, including the best-selling Boundaries. His most recent books are Integrity, Necessary Endings and The Law of Happiness. He has earned three Gold Medallion awards and was awarded the distinguished Retailers Choice award for God Will Make A Way.

Dr. Cloud has appeared on numerous radio and television broadcasts and has been featured in many publications. Millions of listeners have benefited from his wit and wisdom for over a decade.

As president of Cloud-Townsend Resources, he has produced and conducted hundreds of public seminars around the country. He speaks on relationships - marriage, parenting, dating, personal growth, and spirituality. His seminars are often broadcast live to over two thousand venues at a time.

In his consulting practice, he works with leaders of organisations and corporations, from family-held firms to Fortune 25 companies and non-profit organisations. With his extensive executive coaching background and experience as an organisational and leadership consultant, he speaks regularly at corporate and leadership events held across the United States and internationally.

Dr. Cloud co-founded a health-care company that operated treatment centres in 35 cities in the Western United States; he served as Clinical Co-Director for ten years. In that context of hands-on clinical experience, he researched and developed many of the treatment methods and principles he communicates to audiences today. Since then, he has devoted his time to spreading principles of hope and life change through speaking, writing, and the media. His books have sold over four million copies.

He is a graduate of Southern Methodist University, having earned a BS in psychology with honours. He completed his PhD in clinical psychology at Biola University and his clinical internship at Los Angeles County Department of Mental Health. His philanthropic interests lie in the area of homelessness and the inner city, as well as Third World missions and development. He serves on the board of the Los Angeles Mission, a rescue mission on Skid Row in downtown Los Angeles.

Dr. Cloud is an avid golfer and enjoys boating, deep sea fishing and scuba diving. He lives in Los Angeles.

John Townsend

Dr. John Townsend (Psy.D., Rosemead Graduate School of Psychology) is a psychologist, popular speaker, radio host and the bestselling author and co-author of numerous books, including the Gold Medallion award-winning Boundaries and God Will Make a Way. He is co-founder of the Cloud-Townsend Clinic in Southern California.

Table Of Contents

  • Contents
  • Introduction
  • I. What Are Boundaries?
  • 1. What Does A Boundary Look Like?
  • 2. Understanding Boundaries
  • 3. Ten Laws Of Boundaries
  • 4. Common Boundary Myths
  • Ii. Boundary Conflicts
  • 5. Boundaries And Your Family
  • 6. Boundaries And Your Friends
  • 7. Boundaries And Your Spouse
  • 8. Boundaries And Your Children
  • 9. Boundaries And Work
  • 10. Boundaries And Your Self
  • 11. Boundaries And God
  • Iii. Developing Healthy Boundaries
  • 12. Resistance To Boundaries
  • 13. Success With Boundaries


Excerpt from: Boundaries (Workbook)

Chapter One What Does a Boundary Look Like? Give Me Something to Hope For It's sometimes easier to see in other people the very thing we would do well to change in ourselves. Look again at Sherrie's day. Read through the entries from 6:00 a.m. to 11:50 p.m. and see how closely your life resembles her boundaryless day. * Where do you see yourself in Sherrie's actions and thoughts? Be as specific as possible. * Who in your life could be cast in the role of Sherrie's mother ; her husband, Walt, her 'friend,' Lois; her demanding boss, Jeff ; the encouraging teacher, Mrs. Russell; her unreachable daughter; and the church leader with yet another request? Who treats you the way these people treated Sherrie? Whose words and actions elicit the same kind of response (emotional and otherwise) from you that these people elicited from Sherrie? * How did you respond to the way Sherrie used Scripture as she made decisions that violated her---at best---shaky boundaries? * If Sherrie came to you for advice, what would you say to her? How would you diagnose her problem? Which of your own words of advice would you do well to heed? You can probably identify with Sherrie's dilemma---her isolation, her helplessness, her confusion, her guilt, and, above all, her sense that her life is out of control. Trying harder isn't working for her. Being nice out of fear isn't working for her. Taking responsibility for others isn't working for her. Sherrie still suffers severely from her inability to take ownership of her life. She has great difficulty knowing what things are her responsibility and what things are not. In her desire to do the right thing or to avoid conflict, she ends up taking on problems that God never intended her to take on. * Look at your life through this lens. What problems have you taken on that God may never have intended you to take on? * What motivated you to take on those problems you just listed---your desire to do the right thing, your efforts to avoid conflict, your fear of disappointing someone or not being liked, a sense of guilt, an inner 'should,' or something else? Any confusion about responsibility and ownership in our lives is a problem of boundaries. * Why are you confused about boundaries---about when and how to draw them for yourself or even whether drawing boundaries is okay? What has happened to foster that confusion? * Why are Christians especially susceptible to confusion about boundaries? The questions listed in the introduction and below reflect some of the confusion we Christians may have about boundaries. Can I set limits and still be a loving person? What are legitimate boundaries? What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries? How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money? Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries? How do boundaries relate to submission? Aren't boundaries selfish? Is it difficult for me to hear no from other people? Do I tend to want to control other people when I don't get what I want? * Which of these questions have you wondered about? Which questions do you especially want answers for? * What do you want to gain from this study besides answers to those questions? What hopes and goals do you have for yourself? As you proceed through this study and work toward the goals you have set for yourself, remember that this book aims to help you see the deeply biblical nature of boundaries as they operate in the character of God, his universe, and his people. Remember, too, that our goal is to help you use biblical boundaries appropriately so that you can experience the relationships and achieve the purposes that God intends for you as his child. A Little Boundary Clarification Remember the story of Bill? His parents paid his bills, fretted over his circumstances, worried about his future, and exerted much energy to keep him going. Bill didn't study, plan, or work, yet he had a nice place to live, plenty of money, and all the rights of a family member who was doing his part. He was irresponsible and happy---and they were responsible and miserable. And remember how we helped his parents see that? We compared Bill to a man who never watered his lawn. Whenever his neighbors turned on their sprinkler system, the water fell on Bill's lawn. Their grass was turning brown and dying, but Bill saw his green grass and thought his yard was doing fine. We suggested that they define the property lines a little better and fix the sprinkler system so that water would fall on their own lawn. Perhaps then, when Bill didn't water his lawn and found himself living in dirt, he would recognize that he had a problem and would do something about it. * Where are you watering someone else's yard while your own grass withers and dies? * Where are you letting someone else water your yard? * Is it cruel to stop watering someone else's yard? Would it be cruel for the person who is watering your yard to stop? Why or why not? Invisible Property Lines and Responsibility In the physical world, boundaries are easy to see. In the spiritual world, boundaries are just as real, but often harder to see. * What boundaries in the physical world do you deal with every day? * What kind of boundaries do you think need to exist in the spiritual world? * Why are spiritual boundaries as important as physical boundaries? The goal of this lesson is to help you define your intangible boundaries and to recognize them as an ever-present reality that can increase your love and save your life. These boundaries define your soul and help you guard and maintain it (Prov. 4:23).

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  • Catalogue Code 81853
  • Product Code 0310494818
  • EAN 9780310494812
  • UPC 025986494810
  • Pages 224
  • Department Ministry
  • Category Ministry Resources
  • Sub-Category Courses
  • Publisher Zondervan
  • Publication Date May 1995
  • Sales Rank #5261
  • Dimensions 234 x 187 x 16 mm
  • Weight 0.385kg

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