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How to Have That Difficult Conversation

Henry CloudJohn Townsend
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How to Have That Difficult Conversation
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How to Have That Difficult Conversation

Henry CloudJohn Townsend

Successful people confront well. They know that setting healthy boundaries improves relationships and can solve important problems. They have discovered that uncomfortable situations can be avoided or resolved through direct conversation. But most of us don?t know how to have difficult conversations, and we see confrontation as scary or adversarial.

Authors Henry Cloud and John Townsend take the principles from their bestselling book, Boundaries, and apply them to a variety of the most common difficult situations and relationships in order to:

? Show how healthy confrontation can improve relationships

? Present the essentials of a good boundary-setting conversation

? Provide tips on preparing for the conversation

? Show how to tell people what you want, stop bad behavior, and deal with counterattack

? Give actual examples of conversations to have with your spouse, your date, your kids, your coworker, your parents, and more!

Full of practical tips and how-tos, this book will help you make your relationships better, deepen your intimacy with people you care for, and cultivate more love, understanding, and respect between you and others.



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About "How to Have That Difficult Conversation"

Successful people confront well. They know that setting healthy boundaries improves relationships and can solve important problems. They have discovered that uncomfortable situations can be avoided or resolved through direct conversation. But most of us don?t know how to have difficult conversations, and we see confrontation as scary or adversarial.

Authors Henry Cloud and John Townsend take the principles from their bestselling book, Boundaries, and apply them to a variety of the most common difficult situations and relationships in order to:

? Show how healthy confrontation can improve relationships

? Present the essentials of a good boundary-setting conversation

? Provide tips on preparing for the conversation

? Show how to tell people what you want, stop bad behavior, and deal with counterattack

? Give actual examples of conversations to have with your spouse, your date, your kids, your coworker, your parents, and more!

Full of practical tips and how-tos, this book will help you make your relationships better, deepen your intimacy with people you care for, and cultivate more love, understanding, and respect between you and others.


- Publisher

Meet the Authors

Henry Cloud

Dr. Cloud is a clinical psychologist with a unique ability to connect with his audiences. Drawing upon his broad range of experiences in private practice, leadership consulting, and media, he simplifies life's issues and gives easy-to-understand, practical advice. It is Dr. Cloud's humour, compassion, and 'in the moment' confrontation that make his approach to psychology and spirituality such a success.

He has written or co-written 19 books, including the best-selling Boundaries. His most recent books are Integrity, Necessary Endings and The Law of Happiness. He has earned three Gold Medallion awards and was awarded the distinguished Retailers Choice award for God Will Make A Way.

Dr. Cloud has appeared on numerous radio and television broadcasts and has been featured in many publications. Millions of listeners have benefited from his wit and wisdom for over a decade.

As president of Cloud-Townsend Resources, he has produced and conducted hundreds of public seminars around the country. He speaks on relationships - marriage, parenting, dating, personal growth, and spirituality. His seminars are often broadcast live to over two thousand venues at a time.

In his consulting practice, he works with leaders of organisations and corporations, from family-held firms to Fortune 25 companies and non-profit organisations. With his extensive executive coaching background and experience as an organisational and leadership consultant, he speaks regularly at corporate and leadership events held across the United States and internationally.

Dr. Cloud co-founded a health-care company that operated treatment centres in 35 cities in the Western United States; he served as Clinical Co-Director for ten years. In that context of hands-on clinical experience, he researched and developed many of the treatment methods and principles he communicates to audiences today. Since then, he has devoted his time to spreading principles of hope and life change through speaking, writing, and the media. His books have sold over four million copies.

He is a graduate of Southern Methodist University, having earned a BS in psychology with honours. He completed his PhD in clinical psychology at Biola University and his clinical internship at Los Angeles County Department of Mental Health. His philanthropic interests lie in the area of homelessness and the inner city, as well as Third World missions and development. He serves on the board of the Los Angeles Mission, a rescue mission on Skid Row in downtown Los Angeles.

Dr. Cloud is an avid golfer and enjoys boating, deep sea fishing and scuba diving. He lives in Los Angeles.

John Townsend

Dr. John Townsend (Psy.D., Rosemead Graduate School of Psychology) is a psychologist, popular speaker, radio host and the bestselling author and co-author of numerous books, including the Gold Medallion award-winning Boundaries and God Will Make a Way. He is co-founder of the Cloud-Townsend Clinic in Southern California.

Table Of Contents

  • successful People Confront Well. They Know That Setting Healthy Boundaries Improves Relationships And Can Solve Important Problems. They Have Discovered That Uncomfortable Situations Can Be Avoided Or Resolved Through Direct Conversation. But Most Of Us Don?t Know How To Have Difficult Conversations, And We See Confrontation As Scary Or Adversarial.

    authors Henry Cloud And John Townsend Take The Principles From Their Bestselling Book, Boundaries, And Apply Them To A Variety Of The Most Common Difficult Situations And Relationships In Order To:

    ? Show How Healthy Confrontation Can Improve Relationships

    ? Present The Essentials Of A Good Boundary-setting Conversation

    ? Provide Tips On Preparing For The Conversation

    ? Show How To Tell People What You Want, Stop Bad Behavior, And Deal With Counterattack

    ? Give Actual Examples Of Conversations To Have With Your Spouse, Your Date, Your Kids, Your Coworker, Your Parents, And More!

    full Of Practical Tips And How-tos, This Book Will Help You Make Your Relationships Better, Deepen Your Intimacy With People You Care For, And Cultivate More Love, Understanding, And Respect Between You And Others.

  • Confident Confrontations...9
  • Part I
  • Why You Need To Have That
  • Difficult Conversation
  • 1 The Talk Can Change Your Life...15
  • 2 The Benefits Of A Good Conversation...20
  • Part Ii
  • The Essentials
  • Of A Good Conversation
  • 3 Be Emotionally Present...35
  • 4 Be Clear About 'you' And 'i'.38
  • 5 Clarify The Problem...41
  • 6 Balance Grace And Truth...44
  • 7 Stay On Task ...47
  • 8 Use The Formula, When You Do 'a,' I Feel 'b'...51
  • 9 Affirm And Validate...54
  • 10 Apologize For Your Part In The Problem...59
  • 11 Avoid 'shoulds'...62
  • 12 Be An Agent For Change...66
  • 13 Be Specific...70
  • 14 Differentiate Between Forgiving And Trusting ...74
  • Part Iii
  • Seeing How It's Done
  • 15 Telling People
  • What You Want...81
  • 16 Making Someone Aware Of A Problem...103
  • 17 Stopping A Behavior ...126
  • 18 Dealing With Blame, Counterattack,
  • And Other Problems...157
  • Part Iv
  • Getting Yourself Ready To Have The
  • Conversation
  • 19 Why You Need To Be Ready ...183
  • 20 How To Get Ready...188
  • Part V
  • Having The Difficult Conversation
  • With People
  • In Your Life
  • 21 With Your Spouse...207
  • 22 With Someone You're Dating...219
  • 23 With Your Child...232
  • 24 With Your Parent...243
  • 25 With Adult Children...256
  • 26 At Work...264
  • 27 With People
  • In Authority...276
  • Speaking The Truth In Love...287
  • Small Group Dicussion Guide...291

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Excerpt from: How to Have That Difficult Conversation

Successful people confront well. They know that setting healthy boundaries improves relationships and can solve important problems. They have discovered that uncomfortable situations can be avoided or resolved through direct conversation. But most of us don?t know how to have difficult conversations, and we see confrontation as scary or adversarial.

Authors Henry Cloud and John Townsend take the principles from their bestselling book, Boundaries, and apply them to a variety of the most common difficult situations and relationships in order to:

? Show how healthy confrontation can improve relationships

? Present the essentials of a good boundary-setting conversation

? Provide tips on preparing for the conversation

? Show how to tell people what you want, stop bad behavior, and deal with counterattack

? Give actual examples of conversations to have with your spouse, your date, your kids, your coworker, your parents, and more!

Full of practical tips and how-tos, this book will help you make your relationships better, deepen your intimacy with people you care for, and cultivate more love, understanding, and respect between you and others.

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Product Details
  • Catalogue Code 437893
  • Product Code 9780310343806
  • ISBN 0310343801
  • EAN 9780310343806
  • Department General Books
  • Category Christian Living
  • Sub-Category General
  • Publisher Zondervan
  • Publication Date Aug 2015
  • Sales Rank #42172
  • DRM Adobe
  • Printable No

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