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I Love You More

Les ParrottLeslie Parrott

I Love You More

Les ParrottLeslie Parrott

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Every day in every marriage couples bump into problems. They fail to communicate with each other, they struggle to pay bills, and they face a serious illness or a rebellious child. No couple is immune to problems. The question isn't whether a couple will have problems; it's how they are going to handle them. And, more important, how are they going to use them to their advantage - becoming stronger as a result. Relationship experts and award-winning authors Les and Leslie Parrott believe the same forces that can tear down a marriage can become the catalyst for new relational depth and richness - provided you learn the secrets to using everyday problems to strengthen your marriage. The Parrotts explain that a marriage survives and thrives when a couple learns to use problems to boost their love life, to literally love each other more. Then, drawing on their wealth of professional and personal experience as a married couple, they explore how:

* All your difficulties can be traced to one of five sources - and knowing the source makes all the difference.
* A fine line separates an obstacle from an opportunity, and you can discover the opportunity the instant you see the obstacle with new eyes.
* The magic of marriage inevitably wanes if you don't recognize and accept the two sides of intimacy and sex.
* Any marriage problem can be solved in five (not so easy) steps.
* Deep down in the soul of your marriage is a thirst for connection that can only be quenched when you drink from the ultimate source of love.
* Every day your love expands when you clearly see you've become a better person for having married your partner. Designed for use with its accompanying, individual workbooks for husbands and wives, this book will change the way you feel about your problems forever. It can make the difference between a marriage that flounders on the shores of circumstance and one that grows through difficulties to find you saying "I love you more. . . more today than yesterday."


- Publisher I Love You MoreCopyright 2001, 2005 by Les and Leslie ParrottFormerly titled When Bad Things Happen to Good MarriagesRequests for information should be addressed to:Zondervan, Grand Rapids, Michigan 49530Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication DataParrott, Les.I love you more : how everyday problems can strengthen your marriage /Les and Leslie Parrott.p. cm.Rev. ed. of: When bad things happen to good marriages. c2001.Includes bibliographical references.ISBN-10: 0-310-25738-7ISBN-13: 978-0-310-25738-71. Spouses-Religious life. 2. Marriage-Religious aspects-Christianity.I. Parrott, Leslie L., 1964- II. Parrott, Les. When bad things happen to goodmarriages. III. Title.BV4596.M3P38 2005248.8''44-dc22 2005004288All Scripture quotations, unless otherwise indicated, are taken from the Holy Bible: NewInternational Version. NIV. Copyright 1973, 1978, 1984 by International BibleSociety. Used by permission of Zondervan. All rights reserved.The website addresses recommended throughout this book are offered as a resource toyou. These websites are not intended in any way to be or imply an endorsement on thepart of Zondervan, nor do we vouch for their content for the life of this book.All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrievalsystem, or transmitted in any form or by any means-electronic, mechanical, photocopy,recording, or any other-except for brief quotations in printed reviews, withoutthe prior permission of the publisher.Published in association with Yates & Yates, LLP, Attorneys and Counselors, Suite 1000,Literary Agent, Orange, CA.Interior design by Beth ShagenePrinted in the United States of America05 06 07 08 09 10 11 12 /?DCI/ 10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1We want to hear from you. Please send your comments about thisbook to us in care of zreview@zondervan.com. Thank you.real-life problem solversBelow is a listing of some true stories you will find throughoutthis book. Each story focuses on a specific marital struggleand is written by a courageous couple who strengthened theirmarriage in spite of their struggle. We offer these contributionsas a source of inspiration and examples of practical problemsolving.1. How We Overcame Unfulfilled Expectations 38by Scott and Debbie Daniels2. How We Won over a Bad Attitude 65by Kevin and Kathy Lunn3. How We Found Time and Spaceas a Couple with Kids 81by Andrea and Chris Fabry4. How We Reignited Our Sexual Fire 87by Rick and Jennifer Newberg5. How We Tamed the Busyness Monster 96by Steve and Thanne Moore6. How We Brought Back the Fun in Our Marriage 102by Neil and Marylyn Warren7. How We Survived Financial Debt 108by Doug and Jana McKinley98. How We Found Forgiveness after an Affair 129by Richard and Linda Simons9. How We''ve Stayed Committed 135by Jeff and Stacy Kemp10. How We Learned to Speak the SameSpiritual Language 149by Chuck and Barb Snyder11. How We Find God''s Will Together 156by Norm and Bobbe Evans12. How We Found Hope in the Midst of Infertility 186by Mark and Victoria Eaton13. How We Won over Depression 192by Dennis and Emily Lowe14. How We Found Joy with a Disabled Child 195by Norm and Joyce Wright15. How We Dealt with a Rebellious Child 197by Dave and Jan Stoop10 i love you moreworkbook exercisesBelow is a listing of the exercises and self-tests you will find inthe two workbooks we have designed to go along with thisbook (one for husbands and one for wives). In each chapter wewill point you to a specific exercise to work on once you haveread a particular section. This list can serve as a quick referenceto the location of the exercises within this book.1. Taking Inventory of Your Marriage 242. Exploring Your Marital Armament 283. Why Every Marriage Has Everyday Problems 344. What Did You Expect? 375. The Big Question 426. So Many Choices 487. Your Attitude Quotient 568. What Have You Been Looking For? 619. Coping with the Invasion of Intimacy 7710. When Husband and Wife Become Mom and Dad 8311. Refueling the Sexual Fire 8912. Taking Con

- Publisher How to make the thorns in your marriage come up roses.The big and little annoyances in your marriage are actually opportunities to deepen your love for each other. Relationship experts and award-winning authors Les and Leslie Parrott believe that your personal quirks and differences---where you squeeze the toothpaste tube, how you handle money---can actually help draw you together provided you handle them correctly. Turn your marriage's prickly issues into opportunities to love each other more as you learn how to? build intimacy while respecting personal space ? tap the power of a positive marriage attitude ? replace boredom with fun, irritability with patience, busyness with time together, debt with a team approach to your finances . . . and much, much more.Plus---get an inside look at the very soul of your marriage, and how connecting with God can connect you to each other in ways you never dreamed.

- Publisher

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About "I Love You More"

Every day in every marriage couples bump into problems. They fail to communicate with each other, they struggle to pay bills, and they face a serious illness or a rebellious child. No couple is immune to problems. The question isn't whether a couple will have problems; it's how they are going to handle them. And, more important, how are they going to use them to their advantage - becoming stronger as a result. Relationship experts and award-winning authors Les and Leslie Parrott believe the same forces that can tear down a marriage can become the catalyst for new relational depth and richness - provided you learn the secrets to using everyday problems to strengthen your marriage. The Parrotts explain that a marriage survives and thrives when a couple learns to use problems to boost their love life, to literally love each other more. Then, drawing on their wealth of professional and personal experience as a married couple, they explore how:

* All your difficulties can be traced to one of five sources - and knowing the source makes all the difference.
* A fine line separates an obstacle from an opportunity, and you can discover the opportunity the instant you see the obstacle with new eyes.
* The magic of marriage inevitably wanes if you don't recognize and accept the two sides of intimacy and sex.
* Any marriage problem can be solved in five (not so easy) steps.
* Deep down in the soul of your marriage is a thirst for connection that can only be quenched when you drink from the ultimate source of love.
* Every day your love expands when you clearly see you've become a better person for having married your partner. Designed for use with its accompanying, individual workbooks for husbands and wives, this book will change the way you feel about your problems forever. It can make the difference between a marriage that flounders on the shores of circumstance and one that grows through difficulties to find you saying "I love you more. . . more today than yesterday."

- Publisher

I Love You MoreCopyright 2001, 2005 by Les and Leslie ParrottFormerly titled When Bad Things Happen to Good MarriagesRequests for information should be addressed to:Zondervan, Grand Rapids, Michigan 49530Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication DataParrott, Les.I love you more : how everyday problems can strengthen your marriage /Les and Leslie Parrott.p. cm.Rev. ed. of: When bad things happen to good marriages. c2001.Includes bibliographical references.ISBN-10: 0-310-25738-7ISBN-13: 978-0-310-25738-71. Spouses-Religious life. 2. Marriage-Religious aspects-Christianity.I. Parrott, Leslie L., 1964- II. Parrott, Les. When bad things happen to goodmarriages. III. Title.BV4596.M3P38 2005248.8''44-dc22 2005004288All Scripture quotations, unless otherwise indicated, are taken from the Holy Bible: NewInternational Version. NIV. Copyright 1973, 1978, 1984 by International BibleSociety. Used by permission of Zondervan. All rights reserved.The website addresses recommended throughout this book are offered as a resource toyou. These websites are not intended in any way to be or imply an endorsement on thepart of Zondervan, nor do we vouch for their content for the life of this book.All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrievalsystem, or transmitted in any form or by any means-electronic, mechanical, photocopy,recording, or any other-except for brief quotations in printed reviews, withoutthe prior permission of the publisher.Published in association with Yates & Yates, LLP, Attorneys and Counselors, Suite 1000,Literary Agent, Orange, CA.Interior design by Beth ShagenePrinted in the United States of America05 06 07 08 09 10 11 12 /?DCI/ 10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1We want to hear from you. Please send your comments about thisbook to us in care of zreview@zondervan.com. Thank you.real-life problem solversBelow is a listing of some true stories you will find throughoutthis book. Each story focuses on a specific marital struggleand is written by a courageous couple who strengthened theirmarriage in spite of their struggle. We offer these contributionsas a source of inspiration and examples of practical problemsolving.1. How We Overcame Unfulfilled Expectations 38by Scott and Debbie Daniels2. How We Won over a Bad Attitude 65by Kevin and Kathy Lunn3. How We Found Time and Spaceas a Couple with Kids 81by Andrea and Chris Fabry4. How We Reignited Our Sexual Fire 87by Rick and Jennifer Newberg5. How We Tamed the Busyness Monster 96by Steve and Thanne Moore6. How We Brought Back the Fun in Our Marriage 102by Neil and Marylyn Warren7. How We Survived Financial Debt 108by Doug and Jana McKinley98. How We Found Forgiveness after an Affair 129by Richard and Linda Simons9. How We''ve Stayed Committed 135by Jeff and Stacy Kemp10. How We Learned to Speak the SameSpiritual Language 149by Chuck and Barb Snyder11. How We Find God''s Will Together 156by Norm and Bobbe Evans12. How We Found Hope in the Midst of Infertility 186by Mark and Victoria Eaton13. How We Won over Depression 192by Dennis and Emily Lowe14. How We Found Joy with a Disabled Child 195by Norm and Joyce Wright15. How We Dealt with a Rebellious Child 197by Dave and Jan Stoop10 i love you moreworkbook exercisesBelow is a listing of the exercises and self-tests you will find inthe two workbooks we have designed to go along with thisbook (one for husbands and one for wives). In each chapter wewill point you to a specific exercise to work on once you haveread a particular section. This list can serve as a quick referenceto the location of the exercises within this book.1. Taking Inventory of Your Marriage 242. Exploring Your Marital Armament 283. Why Every Marriage Has Everyday Problems 344. What Did You Expect? 375. The Big Question 426. So Many Choices 487. Your Attitude Quotient 568. What Have You Been Looking For? 619. Coping with the Invasion of Intimacy 7710. When Husband and Wife Become Mom and Dad 8311. Refueling the Sexual Fire 8912. Taking Con
- Publisher

How to make the thorns in your marriage come up roses.The big and little annoyances in your marriage are actually opportunities to deepen your love for each other. Relationship experts and award-winning authors Les and Leslie Parrott believe that your personal quirks and differences---where you squeeze the toothpaste tube, how you handle money---can actually help draw you together provided you handle them correctly. Turn your marriage's prickly issues into opportunities to love each other more as you learn how to? build intimacy while respecting personal space ? tap the power of a positive marriage attitude ? replace boredom with fun, irritability with patience, busyness with time together, debt with a team approach to your finances . . . and much, much more.Plus---get an inside look at the very soul of your marriage, and how connecting with God can connect you to each other in ways you never dreamed.
- Publisher

Meet the Authors

Les Parrott

Les Parrott is founder of the Centre for Relationship Development on the campus of Seattle Pacific University and the best-selling author of HIGH-MAINTENANCE RELATIONSHIPS, THE CONTROL FREAK, and LOVE TALK. Dr. Parrott is a sought after speaker to Fortune 500 companies and holds relationship seminars across North America. He also hosts the US national radio broadcast 'Love Talk.' Dr Parrott has been featured in 'USA Today', 'the Wall Street Journal', and 'the New York Times'. His television appearances include CNN, Good Morning America, and Oprah.- Publisher.

Leslie Parrott

Dr. Leslie Parrott is a marriage and family therapist and codirector with her husband, Dr. Les Parrott, of the Center for Relationship Development at Seattle Pacific University. She is the author of God Made You Nose to Toes and The First Drop of Rain, and co-author with her husband of several bestselling books, including The Complete Guide to Marriage Mentoring, Relationships, Love Talk, and the Gold Medallion Award-winner, Saving Your Marriage before It Starts. Leslie is a columnist for Today's Christian Woman and has been featured on Oprah, CBS Morning, CNN, and The View, and in USA Today and the New York Times. www.RealRelationships.com
Koorong -Editorial Review.

Table Of Contents

  • Contents
  • Real-life Problem Solvers 9
  • Workbook Exercises 11
  • Acknowledgments 13
  • Introduction: More Today Than Yesterday 17
  • 1. Love Is Not Enough 21
  • A Marriage Survives And Thrives When A Couple Learns
  • To Use Problems To Their Advantage.
  • 2. Why Every Marriage Has Everyday Problems 31
  • All Your Difficulties Can Be Traced To One Of Five Sources--
  • And Knowing The Source Makes All The Difference.
  • 3. Tackle This Problem First...and All Others Get Easier 53
  • A Fine Line Separates An Obstacle From An Opportunity And
  • It's Discovered The Instant A Couple Sees It With New Eyes.
  • 4. Who Said Sex Was A Problem? 71
  • The Magic Of Marriage Inevitably Wanes If You Don't
  • Recognize And Accept The Two Sides Of Intimacy And Sex
  • (not To Mention Having A Baby).
  • 5. The Six Subtle Saboteurs Of Every Marriage 93
  • Learn To Defend Your Marriage Against These Sneak Attacks
  • And You Will Have Built An Impenetrable Fortress Of Love.
  • 6. How To Solve Any Problem In Five (not-so-easy) Steps 115
  • Discover The 'slumbering Powers' Of Your Marriage And
  • Use This Proven Plan For Revolutionizing Your Love Life.
  • 7. Joining Your Spirits Like Never Before 139
  • Deep Down In The Soul Of Your Marriage Is A Thirst For
  • Connection That Can Only Be Quenched When You Drink
  • From The Ultimate Source Of Love.
  • 8. The Good That Comes From A Problem-solving Marriage 167
  • Every Day Your Love Expands When You Clearly See You've
  • Become More Richly Yourselves Together Than You Could
  • Have Ever Managed Alone.
  • Appendix: Practical Help For A Marriage In Crisis 175
  • Notes 201
  • About The Authors 205

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I Love You More We want to hear from you. Please send your comments about this book to us in care of zreview@zondervan.com. Thank you. real-life problem solvers Below is a listing of some true stories you will find throughout this book. Each story focuses on a specific marital struggle and is written by a courageous couple who strengthened their marriage in spite of their struggle. We offer these contributions as a source of inspiration and examples of practical problem solving. 1. How We Overcame Unfulfilled Expectations 38 by Scott and Debbie Daniels 2. How We Won over a Bad Attitude 65 by Kevin and Kathy Lunn 3. How We Found Time and Space as a Couple with Kids 81 by Andrea and Chris Fabry 4. How We Reignited Our Sexual Fire 87 by Rick and Jennifer Newberg 5. How We Tamed the Busyness Monster 96 by Steve and Thanne Moore 6. How We Brought Back the Fun in Our Marriage 102 by Neil and Marylyn Warren 7. How We Survived Financial Debt 108 by Doug and Jana McKinley 9 8. How We Found Forgiveness after an Affair 129 by Richard and Linda Simons 9. How We've Stayed Committed 135 by Jeff and Stacy Kemp 10. How We Learned to Speak the Same Spiritual Language 149 by Chuck and Barb Snyder 11. How We Find God's Will Together 156 by Norm and Bobbe Evans 12. How We Found Hope in the Midst of Infertility 186 by Mark and Victoria Eaton 13. How We Won over Depression 192 by Dennis and Emily Lowe 14. How We Found Joy with a Disabled Child 195 by Norm and Joyce Wright 15. How We Dealt with a Rebellious Child 197 by Dave and Jan Stoop 10 i love you more workbook exercises Below is a listing of the exercises and self-tests you will find in the two workbooks we have designed to go along with this book (one for husbands and one for wives). In each chapter we will point you to a specific exercise to work on once you have read a particular section. This list can serve as a quick reference to the location of the exercises within this book. 1. Taking Inventory of Your Marriage 24 2. Exploring Your Marital Armament 28 3. Why Every Marriage Has Everyday Problems 34 4. What Did You Expect? 37 5. The Big Question 42 6. So Many Choices 48 7. Your Attitude Quotient 56 8. What Have You Been Looking For? 61 9. Coping with the Invasion of Intimacy 77 10. When Husband and Wife Become Mom and Dad 83 11. Refueling the Sexual Fire 89 12. Taking Control of Your Time-Starved Marriage 98 13. Getting to Know You . . . All Over Again 106 14. Healing Your Painful Past 111 15. Owning Up 120 16. High Hopes---Even When You're Hurting 122 11 17. Walking in Your Partner's Shoes 125 18. Assessing Your Spiritual Language 148 19. Finding the Inspiration around You 161 20. Taking Cover from a Bombshell and Its Fallout 178 21. Surviving Your Private Gethsemane 191 12 i love you more love is not enough A marriage survives and thrives when a couple learns to use problems to their advantage. All beginnings are lovely. French proverb Two days after our wedding in Chicago, Les and I were nestled into a cottage, surrounded by towering timbers along the picturesque Oregon coast. A few miles to the south of us were the famous coastal sand dunes where we planned to ride horses later that week. And up the coast was a quaint harbor village where we thought we might spend another day leisurely looking at shops and eating our dinner by candlelight in a rustic inn some friends recommended. Other than that, we had nothing on our itinerary for the next five days except enjoying the beach and each other, rain or shine. Neither of us could have dreamed up a scenario that would have been better for our honeymoon. Not that everything was perfect. For starters, we accidentally locked ourselves out of our rental car the day after we arrived. I was commenting on how the sun was trying to poke its way out of some clouds when Les realized the keys were in the ignition and all the doors were locked. 'You stay here in the cabin,' Les said, taking his first stab at being an everything's-under-control kind of husband. 'I'm going to walk to that filling station on the main road and get some help.' 'I'll go with you,' I responded. 'Are you sure? It might rain.' 'It'll be fun; let's go.' We walked and talked the two or three miles to find a pay phone, where we made arrangements for the locksmith to pick us up and take us back to our car. Sitting on a curb, we waited, saying nothing. Les was fiddling with a stick he'd picked up on our walk when I realized several minutes had passed and neither of us had said a word. It was an easy stillness, though; a kind of eloquent voicelessness where we were content, comfortable, to not talk. I think it was there and then, quietly sitting on a curb next to a phone booth under a cloudy sky, that the thought hit me like a ray of light. I had captured true love. The thing I'd been chasing ever since I was old enough to know it could be sought was now in my possession. I had married a man who loved me deeply, just as I loved him. We committed ourselves to love together, forever. Love's ethereal mysteries were now unfolding before my very eyes. Its elusive qualities were fading. True love was no longer out of reach. The very opposite, in fact, was true. While I stood by doing nothing, love was enveloping my being. I'm not talking about the dizzying effects of falling in love that happen in the early starry-eyed stages of a new relationship. Les and I had dated for nearly seven years before we found ourselves married and honeymooning on the Oregon coast. The love I'm talking about experiencing that day was cleareyed and grounded. There was no sunset on the horizon, no piped-in background music. This was reality and I was simply taking it in, relishing the silence and stillness of having no other purpose than that of being together. Husband and wife. We had_____ created a marriage. And it was good. So good was this love we had at the beginning that we could practically live on it. And we did, for a time. Can We Keep a Good Thing Going? Like most couples deeply in love, Les and I longed to find ways to make our love endure even before we were married. Part of the impetus for our vision came from reading A Severe Mercy, the real-life love story about Sheldon and Davy Vanauken, two lovers who not only dreamed about building a soulful union, but devised a concrete strategy for doing so that they called their 'Shining Barrier.' Its goal: to make their love invulnerable. Its plan: to share everything. Everything!

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  • Catalogue Code 228682
  • Product Code 0310257387
  • EAN 9780310257387
  • UPC 025986257385
  • Pages 208
  • Department General Books
  • Category Relationships
  • Sub-Category Love, Sex & Marriage
  • Publisher Zondervan
  • Publication Date Jul 2005
  • Sales Rank #19874
  • Dimensions 203 x 136 x 15 mm
  • Weight 0.190kg

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