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Interactions: Marriage (Interactions Small Group Series)

Kevin HarneyBill Hybels
Interactions: Marriage (Interactions Small Group Series)
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Interactions: Marriage (Interactions Small Group Series)

Kevin HarneyBill Hybels

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Want to strengthen your marriage but unsure how to start? For a partnership that's close and strong, Marriage will help you and your spouse draw insight from one another and from the other couples in your group to build the kind of close relationship you've always wanted. Whether you need to stabilize shaky foundations or just want to make a good marriage even better, here's how to - Identify and get the most from you and your partner's different personality traits using a brief, eye-opening self test - Weed out common "romance busters" that drain the excitement from your marriage - Resolve conflicts quickly using a simple three-step peace process - Prevent daily responsibilities from robbing you of real intimacy . . . And more. Marriage will help you and your mate not only recapture the thrill in your marriage, but also maintain and build upon it to create a satisfying, lasting relationship -- the kind God designed you both to enjoy. Interactions -- a powerful, challenging tool for b

- Publisher MarriageCopyright 1996 by Willow Creek AssociationRequests for information should be addressed to:Zondervan, Grand Rapids, Michigan 49530ISBN-10: 0-310-26589-4ISBN-13: 978-0-310-26589-4All Scripture quotations, unless otherwise indicated, are taken from the Holy Bible: New InternationalVersion. NIV. Copyright 1973, 1978, 1984 by International Bible Society. Used by permission ofZondervan. All rights reserved.All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, ortransmitted in any form or by any means-electronic, mechanical, photocopy, recording, or anyother-except for brief quotations in printed reviews, without the prior permission of the publisher.Interior design by Rick Devon and Michelle EspinozaPrinted in the United States of America05 06 07 08 09 10 11 12 /?DCI/ 10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1LEARNINGFROMHISTORYT H E B I G P I C T U R EIt was the summer of 1974, and Lynne and I had been marriedtwo months. She informed me that the garbage disposal hadquit working. I told her to call a repairman.The war was on!"What do you mean, call a repairman? Why pay fifty dollarsfor a job any able-bodied man can do?""Well, you don''t expect me to do it, do you? I don''t know anythingabout garbage disposals. I''d probably electrocute myselfif I touched it. Besides, we''re short on butter knives.""You could do it if you tried. You just don''t care enough."The problem was that Lynne''s dad fixed things, her brotherfixed things, her uncles fixed things, her cousins fixed things,and so she assumed that all men fixed things. Unless, ofcourse, they weren''t interested in what was going on athome. Unless they were too preoccupied with concerns outsidethe home to devote thirty minutes to household needs.From my side, I had never had a successful experience withanything mechanical in my life. I knew I would waste hoursand probably money if I tried to fix the garbage disposal oranything else. I also believed, as my father had, that the sensibleapproach was to stick with what I was good at and paysomeone else to do what I wasn''t good at.W I D E A N G L E V I E W1 Tell a story about a time you and your spouse discoveredhow differently you approach things.A BIBLICAL PORTRAITRead Genesis 2:21-25 and Ephesians 5:31-33 2Both of these passages present three critical steps inthe marriage process. What does it mean to:- Leave our father and mother- Be united to our spouse- Become one fleshSHARPENING THE FOCUSRead Snapshot "The Powers That Shape Us"3 How did your parents handle:- Conflict- Expression of emotions- Celebration of special occasions such as birthdays,holidays . . .THE POWERS THAT SHAPE USLynne and I now realize that who our fathers and mothers were, how they related, and how our familiesoperated played a major role in shaping us as individuals. This is true for everyone. Two decadesspent in close proximity with a single group of people can''t help but shape our personal identities.We are who we are largely because of the experiences we have enjoyed-or endured-within thecontext of our unique family units.Family dynamics determine our self-esteem and self-confidence. Family values shape our character. Family experiencesinfluence our concepts of how marriage should be structured and how children should be raised, of how weshould view work, recreation, education, money, politics, and religion. We all look at our families and decide either torepeat the pattern if our experience was basically positive, or try to create an opposite situation if our experience wasbasically negative. Either way, we are profoundly affected by the attitudes and actions of our families.- Family vacations- Discipline of children4Cite at least one difference in your personalities thatcan be traced directly back to your family backgrounds.How has this become an issue in your marriage,and how are you seeking to deal with it?5 What aspects of your parents'' relationship do yourespect and want to see imitated in your ownmarriage?What are you doi

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Want to strengthen your marriage but unsure how to start? For a partnership that's close and strong, Marriage will help you and your spouse draw insight from one another and from the other couples in your group to build the kind of close relationship you've always wanted. Whether you need to stabilize shaky foundations or just want to make a good marriage even better, here's how to - Identify and get the most from you and your partner's different personality traits using a brief, eye-opening self test - Weed out common "romance busters" that drain the excitement from your marriage - Resolve conflicts quickly using a simple three-step peace process - Prevent daily responsibilities from robbing you of real intimacy . . . And more. Marriage will help you and your mate not only recapture the thrill in your marriage, but also maintain and build upon it to create a satisfying, lasting relationship -- the kind God designed you both to enjoy. Interactions -- a powerful, challenging tool for b
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MarriageCopyright 1996 by Willow Creek AssociationRequests for information should be addressed to:Zondervan, Grand Rapids, Michigan 49530ISBN-10: 0-310-26589-4ISBN-13: 978-0-310-26589-4All Scripture quotations, unless otherwise indicated, are taken from the Holy Bible: New InternationalVersion. NIV. Copyright 1973, 1978, 1984 by International Bible Society. Used by permission ofZondervan. All rights reserved.All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, ortransmitted in any form or by any means-electronic, mechanical, photocopy, recording, or anyother-except for brief quotations in printed reviews, without the prior permission of the publisher.Interior design by Rick Devon and Michelle EspinozaPrinted in the United States of America05 06 07 08 09 10 11 12 /?DCI/ 10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1LEARNINGFROMHISTORYT H E B I G P I C T U R EIt was the summer of 1974, and Lynne and I had been marriedtwo months. She informed me that the garbage disposal hadquit working. I told her to call a repairman.The war was on!"What do you mean, call a repairman? Why pay fifty dollarsfor a job any able-bodied man can do?""Well, you don''t expect me to do it, do you? I don''t know anythingabout garbage disposals. I''d probably electrocute myselfif I touched it. Besides, we''re short on butter knives.""You could do it if you tried. You just don''t care enough."The problem was that Lynne''s dad fixed things, her brotherfixed things, her uncles fixed things, her cousins fixed things,and so she assumed that all men fixed things. Unless, ofcourse, they weren''t interested in what was going on athome. Unless they were too preoccupied with concerns outsidethe home to devote thirty minutes to household needs.From my side, I had never had a successful experience withanything mechanical in my life. I knew I would waste hoursand probably money if I tried to fix the garbage disposal oranything else. I also believed, as my father had, that the sensibleapproach was to stick with what I was good at and paysomeone else to do what I wasn''t good at.W I D E A N G L E V I E W1 Tell a story about a time you and your spouse discoveredhow differently you approach things.A BIBLICAL PORTRAITRead Genesis 2:21-25 and Ephesians 5:31-33 2Both of these passages present three critical steps inthe marriage process. What does it mean to:- Leave our father and mother- Be united to our spouse- Become one fleshSHARPENING THE FOCUSRead Snapshot "The Powers That Shape Us"3 How did your parents handle:- Conflict- Expression of emotions- Celebration of special occasions such as birthdays,holidays . . .THE POWERS THAT SHAPE USLynne and I now realize that who our fathers and mothers were, how they related, and how our familiesoperated played a major role in shaping us as individuals. This is true for everyone. Two decadesspent in close proximity with a single group of people can''t help but shape our personal identities.We are who we are largely because of the experiences we have enjoyed-or endured-within thecontext of our unique family units.Family dynamics determine our self-esteem and self-confidence. Family values shape our character. Family experiencesinfluence our concepts of how marriage should be structured and how children should be raised, of how weshould view work, recreation, education, money, politics, and religion. We all look at our families and decide either torepeat the pattern if our experience was basically positive, or try to create an opposite situation if our experience wasbasically negative. Either way, we are profoundly affected by the attitudes and actions of our families.- Family vacations- Discipline of children4Cite at least one difference in your personalities thatcan be traced directly back to your family backgrounds.How has this become an issue in your marriage,and how are you seeking to deal with it?5 What aspects of your parents'' relationship do yourespect and want to see imitated in your ownmarriage?What are you doi
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Meet the Authors

Kevin Harney

Kevin G. Harney is the Teaching Pastor and Evangelism Champion at Faith Church in Dyer, Indiana and Central Wesleyan Church in Holland, MI. He is also on the Teaching Team of the campus ministry at Grand Valley State University in Allendale, Michigan. He is author of Leadership from the Inside Out: Examining the Inner Life of a Healthy Church Leader; Seismic Shifts, the little changes that make a BIG difference in your life; John: An Intimate Look at the Saviour; Ephesians: Bringing Heaven to Earth, and co-author of the Willow Creek Interactions series, the Willow Creek New Community series, the Old Testament Challenge series, and Finding a Church You Can Love and Loving the Church You've Found.

Bill Hybels

Bill Hybels is the founding and senior pastor of Willow Creek Community Church in South Barrington, Illinois, one of the largest and most influential churches in North America, and the chairman of the board for Willow Creek Association. He convened The Global Leadership Summit in 1995, following a God-given prompting to help raise and develop the spiritual gift of leadership for the local church.

Both visionary and passionate about seeing every local church reach its full God-given potential, he speaks around the world on strategic issues related to leadership, evangelism, and church growth. An exceptional communicator, he is a best-selling author of more than 20 books on personal evangelism, marriage and especially on the subject of Christian leadership, including Just Walk Across the Room, Courageous Leadership and the newly released, The Power of a Whisper: Hearing God and Having the Guts to Respond.

Bill received a bachelor's degree in Biblical Studies and an honorary Doctorate of Divinity from Trinity College in Deerfield, IL. He and his wife, Lynne, have two adult children and one grandson.

Table Of Contents

  • Contents
  • Interactions...7
  • Introduction: Building Real Intimacy...9
  • Session 1
  • Learning From History...13
  • Session 2
  • How Are You Wired?...19
  • Session 3
  • Planning For Peace...27
  • Session 4
  • Whatever Happened To Romance?...35
  • Session 5
  • Fanning The Flames Of Marriage...43
  • Session 6
  • Living In Crisis Mode...49
  • Leader's Notes...57

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LEARNING FROM HISTORY T H E B I G P I C T U R E It was the summer of 1974, and Lynne and I had been married two months. She informed me that the garbage disposal had quit working. I told her to call a repairman. The war was on! 'What do you mean, call a repairman? Why pay fifty dollars for a job any able-bodied man can do?' 'Well, you don't expect me to do it, do you? I don't know anything about garbage disposals. I'd probably electrocute myself if I touched it. Besides, we're short on butter knives.' 'You could do it if you tried. You just don't care enough.' The problem was that Lynne's dad fixed things, her brother fixed things, her uncles fixed things, her cousins fixed things, and so she assumed that all men fixed things. Unless, of course, they weren't interested in what was going on at home. Unless they were too preoccupied with concerns outside the home to devote thirty minutes to household needs. From my side, I had never had a successful experience with anything mechanical in my life. I knew I would waste hours and probably money if I tried to fix the garbage disposal or anything else. I also believed, as my father had, that the sensible approach was to stick with what I was good at and pay someone else to do what I wasn't good at. W I D E A N G L E V I E W 1 Tell a story about a time you and your spouse discovered how differently you approach things. A BIBLICAL PORTRAIT Read Genesis 2:21--25 and Ephesians 5:31--33 2Both of these passages present three critical steps in the marriage process. What does it mean to: * Leave our father and mother * Be united to our spouse * Become one flesh SHARPENING THE FOCUS Read Snapshot 'The Powers That Shape Us' 3 How did your parents handle: * Conflict * Expression of emotions * Celebration of special occasions such as birthdays, holidays . . . THE POWERS THAT SHAPE US Lynne and I now realize that who our fathers and mothers were, how they related, and how our families operated played a major role in shaping us as individuals. This is true for everyone. Two decades spent in close proximity with a single group of people can't help but shape our personal identities. We are who we are largely because of the experiences we have enjoyed---or endured---within the context of our unique family units. Family dynamics determine our self-esteem and self-confidence. Family values shape our character. Family experiences influence our concepts of how marriage should be structured and how children should be raised, of how we should view work, recreation, education, money, politics, and religion. We all look at our families and decide either to repeat the pattern if our experience was basically positive, or try to create an opposite situation if our experience was basically negative. Either way, we are profoundly affected by the attitudes and actions of our families. * Family vacations * Discipline of children 4Cite at least one difference in your personalities that can be traced directly back to your family backgrounds. How has this become an issue in your marriage, and how are you seeking to deal with it? 5 What aspects of your parents' relationship do you respect and want to see imitated in your own marriage? What are you doing to develop these in your relationship? Read Snapshot 'No One's Perfect' 6 What is one characteristic that marked your parents' relationship that you want to avoid in your marriage? What would it require for you to confront and avoid these same patterns? 7 How could you creatively thank or affirm your parents for the positive ways they have impacted your life? NO ONE'S PERFECT Sadly, there are more to family memories than highlights. In addition to being one of the greatest determiners of personal identity, the family is also one of the greatest causes of personal pain. No one grows up pain free. The apostle Paul tells us that no one can live a totally righteous life (Rom. 3:23), and that includes parents. There is no perfect mom. No perfect dad. We are all products of parents who were sinners. They too were products of parents who were sinners, just as our children will be. We must realize that imperfect parents always cause some degree of pain to their children. The baton that is passed from one generation to the next is always at least a little disfigured, a little scarred. I N G Y O U R S E L F I N T H E P I C T U R E LOOKING BACK TOGETHER Take time in the coming week to talk with your spouse about an incident in your past where one or both of your parents did something that wounded you. Discuss the following questions: Could it have been avoided? How have you recovered? Are there steps you need to take to continue the healing process? How do you plan to keep from repeating the same mistake in your family life? Take time to pray for healing in the heart of your spouse and commit to continue praying for them in the days and weeks to come. Also, take specific steps toward continuing the healing process in your lives. RESEARCH PROJECT Call or meet with one of your in-laws and ask them how they feel their life has impacted your spouse. Give them freedom to talk about their positive and negative influence. Follow this up by telling your spouse what you learned. Take time to affirm your in-laws, honoring them as people who matter to you and to God.

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  • Catalogue Code 232978
  • Product Code 0310265894
  • EAN 9780310265894
  • UPC 025986265892
  • Pages 112
  • Department Ministry
  • Category Studies
  • Sub-Category General
  • Publisher Zondervan
  • Publication Date Jul 2005
  • Sales Rank #22500
  • Dimensions 228 x 152 x 6 mm
  • Weight 0.167kg

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