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The Act of Marriage

Tim LahayeBeverly Lahaye

The Act of Marriage

Tim LahayeBeverly Lahaye


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Best selling authors, Tim and Beverly LaHaye, present a practical, thorough, and useful Christian handbook on sexual love in marriage. This book is suitable for newlyweds as well as couples who have been married for decades.

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About "The Act of Marriage"

Best selling authors, Tim and Beverly LaHaye, present a practical, thorough, and useful Christian handbook on sexual love in marriage. This book is suitable for newlyweds as well as couples who have been married for decades.
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This updated and expanded edition gives a fresh informative edge to an already definitive book. New sections discuss "sex after sixty" and five reasons why God created sex, all supported by the very latest findings in the fields of medicine and sociology. For engaged couples and newlyweds who want to make lovemaking a joy from the start . . . For couples who have been married for years and want to maintain the flame or rekindle the embers . . . for every husband or wife who wants to be a better lover -- here are the insights into each other's bodies, psychosexual makeup, and need for tender, unselfish affection that can help you achieve your goal. With over 2.5 million copies in print, The Act of Marriage has helped thousands of Christian couples maximize their joy in sexual union and saved countless marriages. Pastors, doctors, and psychologists alike have endorsed the frank, practical insights.
- Publisher

Meet the Authors

Tim Lahaye

Dr. Tim LaHaye is the creator and co-author of the Left Behind series and is also a noted scholar of Biblical prophecy, an internationally known author, a minister, and an educator. He is the founder and president of Tim LaHaye Ministries. Dr. LaHaye and his wife, Beverly, live in southern California.

Beverly Lahaye

Beverly Lahaye is the founder of the largest women's organization in America, Concerned Women for America. The LaHayes live in southern California.

Table Of Contents

  • Contents
  • Acknowledgments
  • Introduction
  • 1. The Sanctity Of Sex
  • 2. What Lovemaking Means To A Man
  • 3. What Lovemaking Means To A Woman
  • 4. Why God Created Sex
  • 5. Sex Education
  • 6. The Art Of Lovemaking
  • 7. For Men Only
  • 8. For Women Only
  • 9. The Unfulfilled Woman
  • 10. The Key To Feminine Response
  • 11. The Impotent Man
  • 12. Sane Family Planning
  • 13. Sex Survey Report
  • 14. The Missing Dimension
  • 15.practical Answers To Common Questions
  • Bibliography


Excerpt from: The Act of Marriage

Introduction This book is unlike any other I have ever written. It should be read only by married couples, those immediately contemplating marriage, and those who counsel married couples. It is deliberately frank. I have long felt a need for a clear and detailed presentation of the intimate relationship that exists between a husband and wife. Most Christian books on this subject skirt the real issues and leave too much to the imagination; such evasiveness is not adequately instructive. Secular books, on the other hand, often go overboard telling it like it is in crude language repulsive to those who need help. In addition, such books usually advocate practices considered improper by biblical standards. To keep the facts that every couple needs to know from being offensive, I am writing this book with the help of Beverly, my wife of fifty years. In addition to the delicate sense of balance she brings to this work, I have drawn on her extensive counseling experiences as a minister's wife, conference speaker, and registrar of Christian Heritage College. Both of us have counseled enough married couples to convince us that an enormous number of them are not enjoying all the blessings of which they are capable or for which God has designed them. We have discovered that many others find the intimacies of married love distasteful and unpleasant. Through the years, we have developed several teaching principles that have helped such people in a relatively short period of time. The requests of counselors, pastors, and others persuaded us that these same principles could help thousands of people if presented in book form. Before we had had time to begin the project, Dr. Robert K. DeVries, then executive vice president of Zondervan Publishing House, invited us to lunch to present us with the first printed copy of my previous book, How to Win Over Depression. 'A book that is sorely needed today, written by a Christian couple, would concern sexual adjustment in marriage,' he remarked, 'and we would like to ask you two to write it.' We thanked him and promised to pray about it. At first Bev was reluctant to get heavily involved with the endeavor until the Lord gave her a specific sign. Within the next two months she counseled at least ten wives who were averse to sexual intercourse. The success those women soon achieved in their love lives convinced her that God required her active participation in the project. As we began to read current literature on the subject, convinced that God meant lovemaking to be enjoyed by both partners, we prayed that He would lead us to make this work fully biblical and highly practical. He provided many counseling illustrations and pertinent suggestions from pastors, doctors, and friends, among them Dr. Ed Wheat, a family physician who has prepared a superb series of lectures on the subject. When we met him at our Family Life Seminar in Tulsa, Oklahoma, he presented us with a complete set of his cassettes and graciously offered us the freedom to use anything in them. We recommend these cassettes to every married couple and those planning to be married in the near future; they are unquestionably the finest we have ever reviewed. In fact, Dr. Wheat includes information in them that we have not found in the fifty or more books we have scrutinized on this subject. Inasmuch as most of the people we counsel are Christians, we concluded through our reading that Christians generally experience a higher degree of sexual enjoyment than non-Christians. However, there was no way to prove our assumption. We then prepared an intimate survey for married couples and offered it to those who have attended our Family Life Seminars. By comparing the responses with those of secular sex surveys, our conclusions were confirmed and other interesting and valuable facts were discovered. The results of our survey appear in chapter 13, and parts of it are scattered through the book. While we were writing the last chapter of this book, Redbook magazine published a Sexual Pleasure Survey showing the preferences of 100,000 women. The survey was taken by the magazine and written by Robert J. Levin (coauthor with Masters and Johnson of The Pleasure Bond). The most significant finding of Redbook's survey and the one listed first was that 'sexual satisfaction is related significantly to religious belief. With notable consistency, the greater the intensity of a woman's religious convictions, the likelier she is to be highly satisfied with the sexual pleasures of marriage.' Naturally we were delighted to find that Redbook's survey revealed results quite similar to those of our survey. On the strength of his research Mr. Levin emphatically confirmed that 'strongly religious women (over 25) seem to be more responsive . . . [and] she is more likely than the nonreligious woman to be orgasmic almost every time she engages in sex.' This further convinces us that our presupposition is accurate. No single book by human beings will ever become the last word on any subject; therefore we don't claim this manual on married love to be final. But we do believe it contains much valuable information helpful to almost any married couple, and several of its insights are not currently found in any other book of its kind. We therefore send it out with our prayers that God will use it to enrich both the love and the love lives of those who read it.

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Helpful book on sex
4 stars By Kate, May 26 2015
I read this book before getting married and actually found it very helpful. 
There is lots of helpful advice in here which I feel is appropriate for those soon to be married. I would suggest it might be best to read separately before the wedding for some helpful education. The book talks about the mechanics of sex, and what it means to a man or woman etc. 
I did find a few of their ideas a little old fashioned, but on the whole it was a frank and helpful discussion about a topic that is very important in any marriage! I'd recommend it to any married couple.
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not for pre marital!
2 stars By elise, Jan 31 2014
Someone gave this to me as a pre marital... I was horrified and shocked. I kept reading to find visuals and very descriptive text. I left the book there and finished after being married. It was sightful and interesting. I learned about the female and male reproductive system. I personally wouldn't recommended this book!
Not the best Lahaye book written
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Really Practical
5 stars By Jayde, Apr 26 2012
Definitely not for people who are not married or getting married in the next month as it is very VERY descriptive and practical! If you are married and having trouble in the sexual aspect of your marriage - or if you are about to get married in one or two months and just need to get some godly advise and knowledge about sex in your marriage - then it's a good book to read
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  • Catalogue Code 122447
  • Product Code 0310212006
  • EAN 9780310212003
  • UPC 025986212001
  • Pages 400
  • Department General Books
  • Category Relationships
  • Sub-Category Love, Sex & Marriage
  • Publisher Zondervan
  • Publication Date Mar 1998
  • Sales Rank #3465
  • Dimensions 158 x 107 x 22 mm
  • Weight 0.204kg

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