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The Lost Art of Listening

Michael Nichols
The Lost Art of Listening

The Lost Art of Listening

Michael Nichols

$35.99

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"Nothing hurts more than the sense that people close to us aren't really listening to what we have to say. Someone talks and someone else listens - it sounds so simple that we take it for granted. But why do we often feel cut off when speaking to the people closest to us - family members, friends, or colleagues? What is it that keeps so many of us from really listening?" "Michael P. Nichols answers these questions and more in this thoughtful, witty, and surprisingly helpful look at the reasons people don't hear one another. His book, a guide to the secrets of listening and being listened to, is filled with vivid examples that clearly demonstrate easy-to-learn techniques for becoming a better listener. He also illustrates how empathic listening enables us to break through misunderstandings and conflict and to transform our personal and professional relationships." "Readers learn how to deal with "aggressive disregard", why some people respond so violently to criticism, ways to make sure both sides get heard in heated discussions, how to avoid undermining your own messages, and why people tune out when you vent emotion." "Without trivializing or ignoring the relationship dynamics responsible for so much misunderstanding in our lives, this immensely informative guide to better listening offers a profoundly hopeful message - we can learn to understand each other and improve our relationships."--BOOK JACKET. Title Summary field provided by Blackwell North America, Inc. All Rights Reserved

- Publisher "What is true listening and why, the author asks, has it become a near-rarity in modern life? Nichols shows how to utilize this 'art by which we use empathy to reach the space across us' to improve and repair relationships with spouses, lovers, relatives, children, friends, and colleagues, and even how to boost one's own 'listenability.' He also explains what listening isn't, explaining why people don't listen and listing obstacles to listening (especially defensiveness owing to emotional overreaction). Humor, true life examples and simple exercises make this a practical and even entertaining self-help guide..." --Publishers Weekly "Written in a readable, clear style, the topic of listening is covered extensively...Recommended for undergraduates, professionals in counseling, and the general public." --Choice "An intriguing survey of the art of listening and its role in communication." --The Bookwatch "The author's style, vignettes, insights and presentation provide encouragement to professionals and laymen alike: Sensitive listening skills can be improved and developed to maximize one's relationships and self-awareness. This book is worthy of consideration for all who search for the joy and rewards of reciprocal understanding....is an excellent contribution to the field of communication." --The Journal of Nervous and Mental Disease "An important review of the many basic principles of listening that most of us have learned at one point or another in our lifetimes and then quickly forgotten...One of the strengths of this book is Nichol's ability to speak directly to the reader....Although this book fits into the category of a 'self-help' book it has definite implications for therapists. Throughout the book Nichols gives examples of how the principles he discusses apply to therapy and the therapist." --Journal of Family Psychotherapy "Nichols simply, yet insightfully, explains why listening is the fundamental psychotherapeutic skill....Nichols includes many counseling elements into his rendition of the elements of listening. This book serves as a wake-up call to remind professionals that listening is difficult and should not be an assumed skill....Useful to both novice and experienced psychotherapy professionals....Powerful and informative." --Contemporary Psychology "The message is an encouraging one--we can learn to understand each other and improve our relationships. This book should sell well among the general public and the paperback edition will doubtless be in most supermarkets and airport kiosks." --Child and Family Behavior Therapy "This is a good book. It should be in church libraries. And preachers should read it because some of them are hard to listen to. The book tells why and what they can do about it." --Provident Book Finder

- Publisher Why do we often feel cut off when speaking to the people closest to us/m?/family members, friends, or colleagues? What is it that keeps so many of us from really listening? Michael P. Nichols answers these questions and more in this thoughtful, witty, and helpful look at the reasons people don't hear one another. His book, a guide to the secrets of listening and being listened to, is filled with vivid examples that clearly demonstrate easy?to?learn techniques for becoming a better listener. He also illustrates how empathic listening enables us to break through misunderstandings and conflict and to transform our personal and professional relationships. This book will be of interest to anyone who would like to improve the way they communicate with intimate partners, family members, colleagues, employers, and friends.

- Publisher

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About "The Lost Art of Listening"

"Nothing hurts more than the sense that people close to us aren't really listening to what we have to say. Someone talks and someone else listens - it sounds so simple that we take it for granted. But why do we often feel cut off when speaking to the people closest to us - family members, friends, or colleagues? What is it that keeps so many of us from really listening?" "Michael P. Nichols answers these questions and more in this thoughtful, witty, and surprisingly helpful look at the reasons people don't hear one another. His book, a guide to the secrets of listening and being listened to, is filled with vivid examples that clearly demonstrate easy-to-learn techniques for becoming a better listener. He also illustrates how empathic listening enables us to break through misunderstandings and conflict and to transform our personal and professional relationships." "Readers learn how to deal with "aggressive disregard", why some people respond so violently to criticism, ways to make sure both sides get heard in heated discussions, how to avoid undermining your own messages, and why people tune out when you vent emotion." "Without trivializing or ignoring the relationship dynamics responsible for so much misunderstanding in our lives, this immensely informative guide to better listening offers a profoundly hopeful message - we can learn to understand each other and improve our relationships."--BOOK JACKET. Title Summary field provided by Blackwell North America, Inc. All Rights Reserved
- Publisher

"What is true listening and why, the author asks, has it become a near-rarity in modern life? Nichols shows how to utilize this 'art by which we use empathy to reach the space across us' to improve and repair relationships with spouses, lovers, relatives, children, friends, and colleagues, and even how to boost one's own 'listenability.' He also explains what listening isn't, explaining why people don't listen and listing obstacles to listening (especially defensiveness owing to emotional overreaction). Humor, true life examples and simple exercises make this a practical and even entertaining self-help guide..." --Publishers Weekly "Written in a readable, clear style, the topic of listening is covered extensively...Recommended for undergraduates, professionals in counseling, and the general public." --Choice "An intriguing survey of the art of listening and its role in communication." --The Bookwatch "The author's style, vignettes, insights and presentation provide encouragement to professionals and laymen alike: Sensitive listening skills can be improved and developed to maximize one's relationships and self-awareness. This book is worthy of consideration for all who search for the joy and rewards of reciprocal understanding....is an excellent contribution to the field of communication." --The Journal of Nervous and Mental Disease "An important review of the many basic principles of listening that most of us have learned at one point or another in our lifetimes and then quickly forgotten...One of the strengths of this book is Nichol's ability to speak directly to the reader....Although this book fits into the category of a 'self-help' book it has definite implications for therapists. Throughout the book Nichols gives examples of how the principles he discusses apply to therapy and the therapist." --Journal of Family Psychotherapy "Nichols simply, yet insightfully, explains why listening is the fundamental psychotherapeutic skill....Nichols includes many counseling elements into his rendition of the elements of listening. This book serves as a wake-up call to remind professionals that listening is difficult and should not be an assumed skill....Useful to both novice and experienced psychotherapy professionals....Powerful and informative." --Contemporary Psychology "The message is an encouraging one--we can learn to understand each other and improve our relationships. This book should sell well among the general public and the paperback edition will doubtless be in most supermarkets and airport kiosks." --Child and Family Behavior Therapy "This is a good book. It should be in church libraries. And preachers should read it because some of them are hard to listen to. The book tells why and what they can do about it." --Provident Book Finder
- Publisher

Why do we often feel cut off when speaking to the people closest to us/m?/family members, friends, or colleagues? What is it that keeps so many of us from really listening? Michael P. Nichols answers these questions and more in this thoughtful, witty, and helpful look at the reasons people don't hear one another. His book, a guide to the secrets of listening and being listened to, is filled with vivid examples that clearly demonstrate easy?to?learn techniques for becoming a better listener. He also illustrates how empathic listening enables us to break through misunderstandings and conflict and to transform our personal and professional relationships. This book will be of interest to anyone who would like to improve the way they communicate with intimate partners, family members, colleagues, employers, and friends.
- Publisher

Meet the Author

Michael Nichols

Michael P. Nichols, PhD, a Professor of Psychology at the College of William and Mary, is coauthor (with Salvador Minuchin) of "Family Healing," and author of "No Place to Hide" and "Turning Forty in the Eighties" among other books. He is a popular speaker and has been a guest on television programs, including "Oprah!" and "CBS This Morning."ý

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  • Catalogue Code 181572
  • Product Code 1572301317
  • EAN 9781572301313
  • Pages 251
  • Department Academic
  • Category Church
  • Sub-Category Care/counselling
  • Publisher Guilford Press
  • Publication Date May 1996
  • Dimensions 228 x 152 x 20 mm
  • Weight 0.330kg

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